I know the “Daddy” relationship is a kink that usually gets strong reactions from people. It seems to either be “Ew, that’s disgusting. I could never do that. It’s just too creepy” or “ZOMG! I love having a Daddy!” Having a Daddy isn’t for everyone and that is fine, but just because it isn’t your kink, don’t bust any Daddy lovers balls about it. If you don’t understand it, for fucks sakes, just ask! Most of us that are open about having Daddies are willing to talk about it. To each his/her own, but I happen to be one of those Daddy loving kinks and I am very happy about it.
I was thinking about all the different degrees and types of Daddies and listed those that popped into my head:
Just when getting laid
Just to appease partner
Just cyber chat
Actual D/s style
Just in scene
It isn’t to say that these various types can’t be combined and overlapping. If I missed some Daddy types don’t get hissy, just let me know or write your own post.
The joy I get from having a Daddy is something hard to explain yet its so simple. It’s safety, unconditional love, happiness, taboo role play that stimulates me beyond belief and so much more. I always call my partner Daddy because that is what he is to me. Daddy is his name to me.
At 23 I sought out and found a Daddy. I’d called a couple other people Daddy before, but this was different, this was real. This was a 24/7 Daddy/girl dynamic. It’s sexual but not always. It doesn’t usually involve age play but it will from time to time. It’s rarely D/s oriented though it was at some point, but the way it is now is what works for us. That is what life is all about, really. Finding what works and rolling with it.
Something I find interesting with Daddy relationships is that so many Daddies have a few “littles” or bottoms of sorts and most littles don’t have multiple Daddies. I say fuck that. I look at it like poly, one Daddy may not fulfill all of ones needs so why not have another Daddy? It is something very intimate to me but I am not opposed to having another Daddy. Do I want or need another 24/7 Daddy? No. A Daddy during scenes? Sure. A disciplinarian Daddy? That would be fantastic. All that said, I am content where I am but if another Daddy type sauntered into my life I wouldn’t say “No, sorry. I already have a Daddy,” any more than I’d tell a suitor “sorry, I have a partner.” No, I would talk to them more, discuss it with Daddy and go from there just like a poly situation.
I don’t mean to ramble on and bore you so I will wrap this up by saying that I love that I have found a Daddy. He loves me for who I am and not even my dirtiest fantasy squicks him. That is love. I just appreciate that sharing this taboo kink (and embracing it myself) is just another perk of being a kinky, poly and sex positive pervert extraordinaire.